Trials: You are either coming out of one, in one, or on your way to one. We can experience them on all levels: Nationally (such as the struggling economy), Family (when one member of the family is affected, we are all affected), or personally (for personal growth). Regardless of the trial on any level, God is still God and has a purpose for them. It is up to us to seek Him for the purpose of the trial so that we may receive the understanding and the purpose for which He has sent the trial.
James 1: 2-4 “My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.”
When we have understanding through a trial and know the purpose of it, it helps us to endure.
Immature response: “Man! I keep going through stuff—can’t catch a break! When will this end? This is getting on my nerves!” (….complain, complain, complain)
As you become seasoned/matured in the Lord, you will begin to develop strength-- and your strength is in understanding, endurance, perseverance and all that produce good character.
Romans 5:3-5 “And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulations produce perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character hope. Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us."
Mature response: “Thank you for this trial Lord, for you have trusted me and counted me worthy to carry this that YOU might be glorified.”
Luke 22: 42 “Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless not My will, but Yours, be done.”
Ultimately God’s ongoing question to us is…."Do you trust Me?"
Job 23: 10 “But He knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold.”
Trials are personalized--Job 23:13-14: “But He is unique, and who can make Him change? And whatever His soul desires, that He does. For He performs what is appointed for me."
God knows the specific trial we need to deal with the issue in our heart that He is trying to remove. The nature of some trials begins to repeat themselves, not necessarily the exact same trial, but the nature of it. Through your experiences, and success through them, your faith increases, so that when something like it comes up again, you KNOW that all will be well!
Isaiah 43:1-3 “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name; you are Mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; when you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, Nor shall the flame scorch you. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.”
Trust God in your times of trials, He is able to complete the work He started in you, the question is will you let Him?
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
He Is In Control
He Is In Control
Every now and then, God is faithful to remind us of a simple truth: He is in control. Through many circumstances throughout our lives, God is working towards helping us build our knowledge of WHO He is as His desire for us is to GROW IN FAITH.
1 Corinthians 5:7 “ For we walk by faith, not by sight.”
This truth (that God is in control) often comes through the following types of circumstances:
1. Protection: He has demonstrated His protection over us, therefore being the one in control. Ex. we are still alive, even though there have been several times harm may have attempted to have its way; seeing calamity, yet not the one involved; perhaps an illness or injury, yet it somehow could’ve been worse—He protected us, because He is in control, because He still has a purpose for us to fulfill!!!!!
Please note that God does not protect us from all suffering, because through those times He still accomplishes His purpose for us by allowing us to know our need for Him. --2 Corinthians 12:10-- He is aware of even the thorns in our flesh.
Romans 8:28 “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”
He uses all circumstances throughout our lives to mold us and shape us, strengthen us and mature us.
Scriptures:
a. Isaiah 45, specifically 45: 1-7, 9-13
b. Psalm 17:8-9
c. Psalm 18:2-3
d. Psalm 46: 1, 10
2. Waiting: God has an appointed time for all circumstances and specific timing for His promises to come to pass in our life—because HE IS IN CONTROL!! He’s like the daddy hold his child’s hand in a crowded place and knows exactly where he is going/where He is taking them, yet the child holds on tight because he/she doesn’t have a clue. God proves Himself to us with little things to build our faith and as we grow in faith, we can trust Him more; especially in the waiting time.
Scriptures:
a. Psalm 37:7 “Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him.”
b. Psalm 37:9 “But those who wait on the Lord, they shall inherit the earth.”
c. Psalm 27:14 “Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord!”
d. Psalm 25:3 “Indeed, let no one who waits on You be ashamed”
e. Psalm 25: 20-21 “Let me not be ashamed, for I put my trust in You. Let integrity and uprightness preserve me, for I wait for You.”
f. Psalm 62:5-8 “My soul, wait silently for God alone, for my expectation is from Him. He only is my rock and my salvation; He is my defense; I shall not be moved. In God is my salvation and my glory; the rock of my strength, and my refuge, is in God. Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.”
Every now and then, God is faithful to remind us of a simple truth: He is in control. Through many circumstances throughout our lives, God is working towards helping us build our knowledge of WHO He is as His desire for us is to GROW IN FAITH.
1 Corinthians 5:7 “ For we walk by faith, not by sight.”
This truth (that God is in control) often comes through the following types of circumstances:
1. Protection: He has demonstrated His protection over us, therefore being the one in control. Ex. we are still alive, even though there have been several times harm may have attempted to have its way; seeing calamity, yet not the one involved; perhaps an illness or injury, yet it somehow could’ve been worse—He protected us, because He is in control, because He still has a purpose for us to fulfill!!!!!
Please note that God does not protect us from all suffering, because through those times He still accomplishes His purpose for us by allowing us to know our need for Him. --2 Corinthians 12:10-- He is aware of even the thorns in our flesh.
Romans 8:28 “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”
He uses all circumstances throughout our lives to mold us and shape us, strengthen us and mature us.
Scriptures:
a. Isaiah 45, specifically 45: 1-7, 9-13
b. Psalm 17:8-9
c. Psalm 18:2-3
d. Psalm 46: 1, 10
2. Waiting: God has an appointed time for all circumstances and specific timing for His promises to come to pass in our life—because HE IS IN CONTROL!! He’s like the daddy hold his child’s hand in a crowded place and knows exactly where he is going/where He is taking them, yet the child holds on tight because he/she doesn’t have a clue. God proves Himself to us with little things to build our faith and as we grow in faith, we can trust Him more; especially in the waiting time.
Scriptures:
a. Psalm 37:7 “Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him.”
b. Psalm 37:9 “But those who wait on the Lord, they shall inherit the earth.”
c. Psalm 27:14 “Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord!”
d. Psalm 25:3 “Indeed, let no one who waits on You be ashamed”
e. Psalm 25: 20-21 “Let me not be ashamed, for I put my trust in You. Let integrity and uprightness preserve me, for I wait for You.”
f. Psalm 62:5-8 “My soul, wait silently for God alone, for my expectation is from Him. He only is my rock and my salvation; He is my defense; I shall not be moved. In God is my salvation and my glory; the rock of my strength, and my refuge, is in God. Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.”
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Faith Conquers Fear
Faith Conquers Fear
Faith (Merriam-Webster dictionary definition): belief and trust in God; complete trust
Fear (Merriam-Webster dictionary definition) : an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by expectation or awareness of danger; anxious concern
Faith and fear are like a seesaw; when fear is high, faith is low. When faith is high, fear is low.
Common types of fears:
• Fear of the future
• Fear of man (i.e. rejection, criticism)
• Fear of loss
• Fear of failure/Fear of success
• Fear of the future
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
Bible definition of faith:
What is faith? Hebrews 11:1; Romans 8:24-25
Ex. Matthew 6:30, 8:25
How do we build our faith?
Romans 10:17—read the Word of God
2 Corinthians 5:7—Walk it out
Protect your faith with the shield of faith: to protect us from the fiery darts of the enemy—don’t doubt (mistrust, question, and rationalize)…will begin to erode faith. Ephesians 6:16
Trust God with your life, resources, relationships, future
Faith (Merriam-Webster dictionary definition): belief and trust in God; complete trust
Fear (Merriam-Webster dictionary definition) : an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by expectation or awareness of danger; anxious concern
Faith and fear are like a seesaw; when fear is high, faith is low. When faith is high, fear is low.
Common types of fears:
• Fear of the future
• Fear of man (i.e. rejection, criticism)
• Fear of loss
• Fear of failure/Fear of success
• Fear of the future
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
Bible definition of faith:
What is faith? Hebrews 11:1; Romans 8:24-25
Ex. Matthew 6:30, 8:25
How do we build our faith?
Romans 10:17—read the Word of God
2 Corinthians 5:7—Walk it out
Protect your faith with the shield of faith: to protect us from the fiery darts of the enemy—don’t doubt (mistrust, question, and rationalize)…will begin to erode faith. Ephesians 6:16
Trust God with your life, resources, relationships, future
Monday, May 18, 2009
The Glorious Mother.....
Any woman who gives birth will be a "mother"....but it takes a special kind of lady to be a Glorious Mother.....
To be a Glorious mother.......
-you have got to have temperance
-don' t just concentrate on your children (communal mindset)
-must know the trappings of the devil to warn them
-don't be ashamed to talk about sex with your children
-don't stir up strife with your husband in the presence of children
-know that it's okay to come in 2nd place
-learn how to say "No!"
-it's okay to NOT know EVERYTHING!
-research to LEARN
-learn how to be one within yourself
-look beyond the obvious...look to God to understand your children (He does since He is their creator : )
-learn to nurture their spirit
-have an understanding husband
-knows that the best investment to give your children is TIME
-understand their personality
-know that there is some hard work to be done!
-instill the Word of God in them to guide them in life
-cannot despise motherhood (usually based on judgment towards own mother)
-must have a technique for REAL love (anger and love cannot strive together)
-prays a lot
-never spends time gossipping
-covers a matter with love
-is hopeful
-is an encourager/ solution-focused
-will never shame her children
-loves to talk with her children
-is sacrificial
-is compassionate
-is wise
-has a restraint of emotions
-will keep her word
-hears from the Lord
-overlooks an offense
-be willing to give away what you've always wanted
-will weigh what you say--consider it before it is spoken
-is apologetic
-teaches her children about faith
-cannot walk in doubt and unbelief
-will check out her children's friends and their parents
-will not fear
-will wait on the Lord and teach children how to wait on the Lord
-will teach them how to value righteousness and realize that it goes generations beyond you..
-will learn to take nothing and make something of it
-is not fearful of condemnation from others
-takes the temperature of the world and prepares the children for it accordingly
-is not afraid of the challenges of motherhood
-has to be a friend of God
-will learn to seperate yourself from your children when it's time
-never worries but relies on the Lord
-knows God will keep His Word
-hides the Word of God in her heart
-teaches the children to stir up the gifts on the inside/nurture
-will teach children how to balance life activities
-will not live her life through her children
-will listen to her children
-will provide a safety net for her children to make decisions and take on responsibilities
-will teach them how to make proper decisions
-will teach and demonstrate good social skills
-will not use threats or intimidation
-FB
To be a Glorious mother.......
-you have got to have temperance
-don' t just concentrate on your children (communal mindset)
-must know the trappings of the devil to warn them
-don't be ashamed to talk about sex with your children
-don't stir up strife with your husband in the presence of children
-know that it's okay to come in 2nd place
-learn how to say "No!"
-it's okay to NOT know EVERYTHING!
-research to LEARN
-learn how to be one within yourself
-look beyond the obvious...look to God to understand your children (He does since He is their creator : )
-learn to nurture their spirit
-have an understanding husband
-knows that the best investment to give your children is TIME
-understand their personality
-know that there is some hard work to be done!
-instill the Word of God in them to guide them in life
-cannot despise motherhood (usually based on judgment towards own mother)
-must have a technique for REAL love (anger and love cannot strive together)
-prays a lot
-never spends time gossipping
-covers a matter with love
-is hopeful
-is an encourager/ solution-focused
-will never shame her children
-loves to talk with her children
-is sacrificial
-is compassionate
-is wise
-has a restraint of emotions
-will keep her word
-hears from the Lord
-overlooks an offense
-be willing to give away what you've always wanted
-will weigh what you say--consider it before it is spoken
-is apologetic
-teaches her children about faith
-cannot walk in doubt and unbelief
-will check out her children's friends and their parents
-will not fear
-will wait on the Lord and teach children how to wait on the Lord
-will teach them how to value righteousness and realize that it goes generations beyond you..
-will learn to take nothing and make something of it
-is not fearful of condemnation from others
-takes the temperature of the world and prepares the children for it accordingly
-is not afraid of the challenges of motherhood
-has to be a friend of God
-will learn to seperate yourself from your children when it's time
-never worries but relies on the Lord
-knows God will keep His Word
-hides the Word of God in her heart
-teaches the children to stir up the gifts on the inside/nurture
-will teach children how to balance life activities
-will not live her life through her children
-will listen to her children
-will provide a safety net for her children to make decisions and take on responsibilities
-will teach them how to make proper decisions
-will teach and demonstrate good social skills
-will not use threats or intimidation
-FB
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Notes From Dr. Bruce Wilkerson conference
Friday March 20, 2009
There is a Dream that God puts in each of our hearts…it’s His dream that He desires that we make come true.
Every child will have great dreams. If you don’t have a dream, you will lose your way. When you lose your way your heart dies. God put a dream in your heart. Everybody has a dream…are you living your dream? If you aren’t what was your dream? Dream—“you can’t get rid of me because I am you!” Your dream determines what you are like.
90% of people don’t live their dream.
The grave yard—where the dream dies…what’s in the grave yard?
“I’m not good enough”
“I can’t do it”
“I’m afraid”
100% of people feel this way and should feel this way…dreams make everyone afraid—all dreams are impossible to attain (alone)—but with GOD…
**Is your dream in your comfort zone? NO…
Your dream is NOT in your comfort zone…a wall of fear exists at the edge of everyone’s comfort zone.
What must you do to get beyond the fear? You have to move beyond your fear into faith
**Did you have anything to do with your dream? NO
This is where we lose our way ….we hate ourselves, disappointed, “I’ve ruined my life”
Dream is locked away in the closet ….self-hatred, self-sabotage, worthlessness
Go after your destiny—take courage! “I’m walking through this fear anyway”
Open the closet door….it will hurt…hurt is temporary. Be willing to open the closet.
(Jeremiah 1:4)
God didn’t need just another person—He needed a specific design!
God’s dream________________________________________10,000 AD
10,000 BC
“I need a person to do this __________ at this place _________ at this time _______ with this strength in character _________ …Because I WILL accomplish my dream!
Your life is not all about you!
Everything you’ve been through all your life had a purpose.
He’s for the FINISH LINE….you’re for the NOW line
Read about the life of Joseph….
WOUNDS, TRIALS, and TRIBULATIONS are ALL a part of preparation!!
There is a purpose for who you are…
1 Corinthians 4:7 “For who makes you differ from another? And what do you have that you did not receive? Now if you did indeed receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?”
“I don’t like (this part) about me”----an insult to God!
If you don’t allow your heart to get hardened, your dream will come true!
Exodus 35: 30-35
We are a trophy of His grace..
Read Psalm 139:13
The more you pray, the more life is in you!
Eph. 2:10, v. 8-10
Glory is brilliance
Life isn’t fair
Life is: “Finish the work that God gave you to do.”
Find God in all areas of your life---Peaks and valleys
THANK YOU GOD FOR EVERYTHING!!
Saturday March 21, 2009
The Land of familiar –we always start where we are familiar—the dream is a long ways away…
Stage 1: The dream is in your heart, not your head. The head usually wins—“You’re stupid”
Size of the dream: HUGE
Your dream invented you not the other way around.
When you don’t live your dream, you hurt.
When you see someone living your dream…to see it hurts tremendously—we stuff it.
We hurt ourselves…get upset and bitter
“Life’s not fair!”--Who got off the road???----you did!
No one pushes us off the road…we jump in the ditch---repeatedly—until we are way off the path…
We feel empty and there is an ache in our heart.
We’ll do anything to get rid of the pain…Even if you are off the beaten path, there’s always a way back.
God is always involved
You are 100% responsible--come back, turn, repent
If you forgive you will be put back on the path if not, your heart will grow harder and harder.
God does not stop the free will of people who want to do wrong.
Sexual trauma--sexually out of control (or)
--Dried up
When you forgive, God heals your heart.
Comfort Zone—a place where I am comfortable
Every dream is outside of our comfort zone.
100% of people have the fear to go outside the comfort zone.
Want the dream more than you want the fear!
I’M GOING ANYWAY!! TAKE COURAGE!!!
Reward on the other side of fear –a NEW YOU!!
When you break your comfort zone you break your families comfort zone; family—no support
AKA “Border bullies” --envy, don’t want you to get hurt.
Fear of comfort zone and fear of man (wanting approval)
Helping Other People with Their Dream:
Be a dream coach: you coach other people
Less than 20% of people are actively pursuing their dream or living their dream
Weak areas—things we are not good at
Schools try to make people “well rounded” Why do we focus on our weaknesses?? FOCUS ON STRENGHTS!
Help people get out of self-centeredness by encouraging them to focus on others—help others
To be a dream coach—determine what stage they are at:
1. Do they know their dream?
2. Are they stuck in their comfort zone?
3. Are they surrounded by Border bullies?
90% people are stuck at one of these places!
Ask questions:
1. What is it that you always wanted to do? Anticipate change of topic--if you open their heart it will be painful
How?
-low pitched voice
-talk slow
-short sentences
-open-ended question (no yes/no answer)
-many pauses
-body tilt/head tilt
BODY LANGUAGE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE WORDS THAT COME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH!!
2. What stage are they in?
a. Express yourself to get them to express their feelings---“I’m feeling _________.; have you ever felt that way?
b. If you had all the money in the world what would you love to do?
c. How long have you wanted to do this?
d. “TOO BIG” –if it were smaller, would you do it?
Obstacles—fear of the unknown, fear of failure
I will not allow fear to keep me from achieving my dreams.
WOUNDS - intentional
-Unintentional
Hurt - from others
- self
- God
Only God can heal your wounds
Dirt in a wound—wound won’t heal Clean the wound—wound will heal itself
“Dirt” in heart---Clean the heart—heart will heal
Heart = real you
When words hit a wound = REACTION
Infection in the heart: unforgiveness
Matthew 18:21-35 …..if we choose not to forgive, God Himself will hand us over to the tormentors to be tortured until we do. That is just how serious He is about Forgiveness. Unforgiveness—most severe sin
Torturers –people, demons—anxiety, depression, etc.
God has zero tolerance for people who don’t forgive--no mercy
Wounds are in your heart
OTHERS
“The person doesn’t deserve forgiveness”---that’s irrelevant…the question is how much longer to you want to be tormented??
Downward spiral progression of unforgiveness:
-Wound/ hurt
-Unforgiveness
-Resentment—keeping a track of wrongs
-Bitterness—emotional dislike/sourness
-Anger
-Hatred/Disgust
Results in revenge/vengeance which breeds torment
Many have tried to forgive (genuinely) but it didn’t work.
“I forgive ____”
Forgiveness is from a specific wound
FORGIVENESS EXERCISE:
1. Ask God to reveal the people that have wounded you that you haven’t forgiven yet (ex. Mom, dad, other family members, teachers, peers friends, coaches, co-workers)
Number each: #1 hardest to forgive, #2, #3…
For each name/person write specific ways they wounded you.
God will reveal more people in time
First one is the hardest. If one is unable to forgive (Romans 12:17)
How will God avenge? God will avenge for you!
How does one forgive:
Will: a decision
Mind: “I’ve decided to forgive___”
Heart: specific forgiveness and letting go.
Ask God to take down the walls around your heart.
SELF
Me hurting me
How can a person hurt themselves?
Not forgiving self
Gambling
Abortion
Drugs/Alcohol,etc…
If you begin to think bitterly about a certain person (the devil reminding you of who has done what against you)—don’t permit your mind to go back there—SPEAK: “I have already forgiven_______”
Self-hatred leads to (because I deserve it)
--sabotage
--I’m not worthy
**Identify how you wounded yourself.
“Here are some of the ways that I’ve really wounded myself”
If you don’t forgive yourself, torment will result….anxiety, fears, depression, etc.
How do you forgive yourself for abortion?
1. Tell someone
2. Ask God to forgive you
3. Realize that if God can forgive you, you can forgive yourself.
When your heart is sick, you are sick and your life won’t work.
Forgiven people forgive people.
(At least those who actually have the revelation of forgiveness)
End Notes
There is a Dream that God puts in each of our hearts…it’s His dream that He desires that we make come true.
Every child will have great dreams. If you don’t have a dream, you will lose your way. When you lose your way your heart dies. God put a dream in your heart. Everybody has a dream…are you living your dream? If you aren’t what was your dream? Dream—“you can’t get rid of me because I am you!” Your dream determines what you are like.
90% of people don’t live their dream.
The grave yard—where the dream dies…what’s in the grave yard?
“I’m not good enough”
“I can’t do it”
“I’m afraid”
100% of people feel this way and should feel this way…dreams make everyone afraid—all dreams are impossible to attain (alone)—but with GOD…
**Is your dream in your comfort zone? NO…
Your dream is NOT in your comfort zone…a wall of fear exists at the edge of everyone’s comfort zone.
What must you do to get beyond the fear? You have to move beyond your fear into faith
**Did you have anything to do with your dream? NO
This is where we lose our way ….we hate ourselves, disappointed, “I’ve ruined my life”
Dream is locked away in the closet ….self-hatred, self-sabotage, worthlessness
Go after your destiny—take courage! “I’m walking through this fear anyway”
Open the closet door….it will hurt…hurt is temporary. Be willing to open the closet.
(Jeremiah 1:4)
God didn’t need just another person—He needed a specific design!
God’s dream________________________________________10,000 AD
10,000 BC
“I need a person to do this __________ at this place _________ at this time _______ with this strength in character _________ …Because I WILL accomplish my dream!
Your life is not all about you!
Everything you’ve been through all your life had a purpose.
He’s for the FINISH LINE….you’re for the NOW line
Read about the life of Joseph….
WOUNDS, TRIALS, and TRIBULATIONS are ALL a part of preparation!!
There is a purpose for who you are…
1 Corinthians 4:7 “For who makes you differ from another? And what do you have that you did not receive? Now if you did indeed receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?”
“I don’t like (this part) about me”----an insult to God!
If you don’t allow your heart to get hardened, your dream will come true!
Exodus 35: 30-35
We are a trophy of His grace..
Read Psalm 139:13
The more you pray, the more life is in you!
Eph. 2:10, v. 8-10
Glory is brilliance
Life isn’t fair
Life is: “Finish the work that God gave you to do.”
Find God in all areas of your life---Peaks and valleys
THANK YOU GOD FOR EVERYTHING!!
Saturday March 21, 2009
The Land of familiar –we always start where we are familiar—the dream is a long ways away…
Stage 1: The dream is in your heart, not your head. The head usually wins—“You’re stupid”
Size of the dream: HUGE
Your dream invented you not the other way around.
When you don’t live your dream, you hurt.
When you see someone living your dream…to see it hurts tremendously—we stuff it.
We hurt ourselves…get upset and bitter
“Life’s not fair!”--Who got off the road???----you did!
No one pushes us off the road…we jump in the ditch---repeatedly—until we are way off the path…
We feel empty and there is an ache in our heart.
We’ll do anything to get rid of the pain…Even if you are off the beaten path, there’s always a way back.
God is always involved
You are 100% responsible--come back, turn, repent
If you forgive you will be put back on the path if not, your heart will grow harder and harder.
God does not stop the free will of people who want to do wrong.
Sexual trauma--sexually out of control (or)
--Dried up
When you forgive, God heals your heart.
Comfort Zone—a place where I am comfortable
Every dream is outside of our comfort zone.
100% of people have the fear to go outside the comfort zone.
Want the dream more than you want the fear!
I’M GOING ANYWAY!! TAKE COURAGE!!!
Reward on the other side of fear –a NEW YOU!!
When you break your comfort zone you break your families comfort zone; family—no support
AKA “Border bullies” --envy, don’t want you to get hurt.
Fear of comfort zone and fear of man (wanting approval)
Helping Other People with Their Dream:
Be a dream coach: you coach other people
Less than 20% of people are actively pursuing their dream or living their dream
Weak areas—things we are not good at
Schools try to make people “well rounded” Why do we focus on our weaknesses?? FOCUS ON STRENGHTS!
Help people get out of self-centeredness by encouraging them to focus on others—help others
To be a dream coach—determine what stage they are at:
1. Do they know their dream?
2. Are they stuck in their comfort zone?
3. Are they surrounded by Border bullies?
90% people are stuck at one of these places!
Ask questions:
1. What is it that you always wanted to do? Anticipate change of topic--if you open their heart it will be painful
How?
-low pitched voice
-talk slow
-short sentences
-open-ended question (no yes/no answer)
-many pauses
-body tilt/head tilt
BODY LANGUAGE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE WORDS THAT COME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH!!
2. What stage are they in?
a. Express yourself to get them to express their feelings---“I’m feeling _________.; have you ever felt that way?
b. If you had all the money in the world what would you love to do?
c. How long have you wanted to do this?
d. “TOO BIG” –if it were smaller, would you do it?
Obstacles—fear of the unknown, fear of failure
I will not allow fear to keep me from achieving my dreams.
WOUNDS - intentional
-Unintentional
Hurt - from others
- self
- God
Only God can heal your wounds
Dirt in a wound—wound won’t heal Clean the wound—wound will heal itself
“Dirt” in heart---Clean the heart—heart will heal
Heart = real you
When words hit a wound = REACTION
Infection in the heart: unforgiveness
Matthew 18:21-35 …..if we choose not to forgive, God Himself will hand us over to the tormentors to be tortured until we do. That is just how serious He is about Forgiveness. Unforgiveness—most severe sin
Torturers –people, demons—anxiety, depression, etc.
God has zero tolerance for people who don’t forgive--no mercy
Wounds are in your heart
OTHERS
“The person doesn’t deserve forgiveness”---that’s irrelevant…the question is how much longer to you want to be tormented??
Downward spiral progression of unforgiveness:
-Wound/ hurt
-Unforgiveness
-Resentment—keeping a track of wrongs
-Bitterness—emotional dislike/sourness
-Anger
-Hatred/Disgust
Results in revenge/vengeance which breeds torment
Many have tried to forgive (genuinely) but it didn’t work.
“I forgive ____”
Forgiveness is from a specific wound
FORGIVENESS EXERCISE:
1. Ask God to reveal the people that have wounded you that you haven’t forgiven yet (ex. Mom, dad, other family members, teachers, peers friends, coaches, co-workers)
Number each: #1 hardest to forgive, #2, #3…
For each name/person write specific ways they wounded you.
God will reveal more people in time
First one is the hardest. If one is unable to forgive (Romans 12:17)
How will God avenge? God will avenge for you!
How does one forgive:
Will: a decision
Mind: “I’ve decided to forgive___”
Heart: specific forgiveness and letting go.
Ask God to take down the walls around your heart.
SELF
Me hurting me
How can a person hurt themselves?
Not forgiving self
Gambling
Abortion
Drugs/Alcohol,etc…
If you begin to think bitterly about a certain person (the devil reminding you of who has done what against you)—don’t permit your mind to go back there—SPEAK: “I have already forgiven_______”
Self-hatred leads to (because I deserve it)
--sabotage
--I’m not worthy
**Identify how you wounded yourself.
“Here are some of the ways that I’ve really wounded myself”
If you don’t forgive yourself, torment will result….anxiety, fears, depression, etc.
How do you forgive yourself for abortion?
1. Tell someone
2. Ask God to forgive you
3. Realize that if God can forgive you, you can forgive yourself.
When your heart is sick, you are sick and your life won’t work.
Forgiven people forgive people.
(At least those who actually have the revelation of forgiveness)
End Notes
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Dr. Bruce Wilkinson
Dr. Bruce Wilkinson (Author of "Prayer of Jabez")had visited my place of employment (a comprehensive recovery center for women & women with children) this past Friday/Saturday and had a powerful message for them...a message that brought incredible healing and freedom! A powerful message, a powerful speaker...I will relay what I learned in my next blog...stay tuned : )
Who I Am in Christ
(This is part II ....read Identity: Found first)
This is from Neil T. Anderson's book "Who I Am in Christ" :
Who I Am In Christ
I am accepted...
John 1:12
I am God's child.
John 15:15
As a disciple, I am a friend of Jesus Christ.
Romans 5:1
I have been justified.
1 Corinthians 6:17
I am united with the Lord, and I am one with Him in spirit.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
I have been bought with a price and I belong to God.
1 Corinthians 12:27
I am a member of Christ's body.
Ephesians 1:3-8
I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child.
Colossians 1:13-14
I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins.
Colossians 2:9-10
I am complete in Christ.
Hebrews 4:14-16
I have direct access to the throne of grace through Jesus Christ.
I am secure...
Romans 8:1-2
I am free from condemnation.
Romans 8:28
I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.
Romans 8:31-39
I am free from any condemnation brought against me and I cannot be separated from the love of God.
2 Corinthians 1:21-22
I have been established, anointed and sealed by God.
Colossians 3:1-4
I am hidden with Christ in God.
Philippians 1:6
I am confident that God will complete the good work He started in me.
Philippians 3:20
I am a citizen of heaven.
2 Timothy 1:7
I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.
1 John 5:18
I am born of God and the evil one cannot touch me.
I am significant...
John 15:5
I am a branch of Jesus Christ, the true vine, and a channel of His life.
John 15:16
I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit.
1 Corinthians 3:16
I am God's temple.
2 Corinthians 5:17-21
I am a minister of reconciliation for God.
Ephesians 2:6
I am seated with Jesus Christ in the heavenly realm.
Ephesians 2:10
I am God's workmanship.
Ephesians 3:12
I may approach God with freedom and confidence.
Philippians 4:13
I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.
This is from Neil T. Anderson's book "Who I Am in Christ" :
Who I Am In Christ
I am accepted...
John 1:12
I am God's child.
John 15:15
As a disciple, I am a friend of Jesus Christ.
Romans 5:1
I have been justified.
1 Corinthians 6:17
I am united with the Lord, and I am one with Him in spirit.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
I have been bought with a price and I belong to God.
1 Corinthians 12:27
I am a member of Christ's body.
Ephesians 1:3-8
I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child.
Colossians 1:13-14
I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins.
Colossians 2:9-10
I am complete in Christ.
Hebrews 4:14-16
I have direct access to the throne of grace through Jesus Christ.
I am secure...
Romans 8:1-2
I am free from condemnation.
Romans 8:28
I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.
Romans 8:31-39
I am free from any condemnation brought against me and I cannot be separated from the love of God.
2 Corinthians 1:21-22
I have been established, anointed and sealed by God.
Colossians 3:1-4
I am hidden with Christ in God.
Philippians 1:6
I am confident that God will complete the good work He started in me.
Philippians 3:20
I am a citizen of heaven.
2 Timothy 1:7
I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.
1 John 5:18
I am born of God and the evil one cannot touch me.
I am significant...
John 15:5
I am a branch of Jesus Christ, the true vine, and a channel of His life.
John 15:16
I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit.
1 Corinthians 3:16
I am God's temple.
2 Corinthians 5:17-21
I am a minister of reconciliation for God.
Ephesians 2:6
I am seated with Jesus Christ in the heavenly realm.
Ephesians 2:10
I am God's workmanship.
Ephesians 3:12
I may approach God with freedom and confidence.
Philippians 4:13
I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.
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